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The Importance Of Resilience

Life is an accumulation of events – events which can be positive or negative and cause you to change and evolve while building you into the person you are each new day.  Dealing with positive events is amazing and joyous but the negative ones are the ones that can destroy your life if you cannot overcome them.  Resilience is the ability to bounce back from those negative events.  It is the process by which a person adapts well in the face of trauma and tragedy which can be caused by serious health problems, relationship or family problems and work-related or finance-related stress. 

Surprisingly, this ability is not extra-ordinary and is actually demonstrated by the majority of people. To cope well when faced with adversity, stress or pressure relies on that person’s ability to develop certain behaviours, thoughts and actions which may not be easy to learn, but are absolutely possible to acquire.

Building Resiliance 

Until you are actually faced with major adversity or trauma, you can never know for sure how resilient you are.  But what you can do is build your resilience so you better react to these circumstances.
Some ways to build resilience are:

Making connections

The importance of family and good relationships is made clear when one is faced with a major crisis. When a person experiencing major difficulty has people who can help and support them in the face of adversity, it is easier for the person to be resilient. Accepting support and help from the people in your life who care and are willing to listen to you helps to strengthen resilience.

Treating problems as an opportunity to learn

By treating problems and negative situations as an opportunity to learn, a person can develop their resilience. Instead of trying to see problems as insurmountable, it is important to accept the fact that you can’t change it, but you can change how you respond to future events. Remember that it is not the problem that defines us but our reaction to it. 

Develop and work towards your goals

In developing goals, it is important to develop goals which are realistic and which can be achieved. Try accomplishing something – it doesn’t have to be something big but try doing something small regularly. Sometimes, the smallest step in the right direction is all it takes.  So, no matter how small, take the step.

Be positive and remain hopeful

It is true that sometimes, life can beat you down so badly that you don’t see any reason to get back up.  But remember that behind every dark cloud has a silver lining.  As difficult as it may seem, try to be confident in your ability to sort out and solve problems while trusting your instincts.  Always remain optimistic and hopeful as it helps you appreciate the amazing aspects of your life rather than dwelling in the past.

Pay attention to yourself

It is important to take care of yourself no matter what.  Doing things which are relaxing and make you happy helps relieve stress.  Taking care of your needs whether physiological or physically, exercising regularly and living healthy keeps your body and mind ready to deal with difficult situations

Some other means of strengthening resilience include writing about thoughts and feelings related to traumatic or difficult situations, seeing a professional such as a psychologist, having a regular yoga practice or reading books and other publications.

Importance of Resilience

Resilient people have a sense of commitment to making their lives better and pursuing their goals. Not only are they committed to their work but they also exhibit commitment in other areas such as relationships and spiritual and/or religious beliefs.

Resilience helps build mechanisms which protect us against future experiences which could overwhelm us. This makes us capable of living through difficult or stressful situations, and also helps make us healthy by protecting us from developing mental health conditions.  It also helps us to view difficulties differently. Instead of viewing them as paralyzing episodes of our lives, it helps us see them as challenges.  It helps us view mistakes and failures as opportunities to learn from and grow.

Resilience helps us focus our time and energy on situations which we can control rather than on those which we have no control over, thereby making us more confident by causing us to focus all our efforts where we can make the most impact instead of spending time on events that make us helpless and powerless.  It also improves our learning and development and helps us deal with colleagues and peers in a professional and friendly manner by giving us the tools we need to overcome work pressure and stress.

There will always be trying moments in our lives – moments which will put us in extremely difficult positions.  Sometimes we can never know how resilient we are until we are faced with a life-changing situation.  However, it is important to know that whatever your age, employment situation and wherever you are in life, building your resilience will not only help in times of difficulty but will help you live a healthy and balanced life too.  Finding the right combination of factors to build your resilience is a determinant of how well you want to live your life.

If you want more information on this subject or on our resilience building workshops please contact lucy@culturethree60.co.uk